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1.愤怒,其实是孩子的求救信号。孩子愤怒时,虽然看着气势汹汹,内心却十分恐惧和痛苦。一个不被允许愤怒的孩子和一个不懂处理愤怒的母亲,注定难以共建和谐环境。孩子愤怒的背后,是爱和信心的匮乏,如果我们一味排斥孩子的愤怒,就永远不可能看到这背后的真相。<\/p>
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2.愤怒不可怕,可怕的是亲子联结断裂。心理学家李雪曾说,我们睁着眼,却是全盲。很多人,明明爱孩子爱到骨子里,疼孩子疼到心尖上,却唯独忘了去认真了解孩子的想法。孩子发怒不可怕,可怕的是,孩子内心关闭了联结父母的通道,从此势单力薄一个人,身在人群却如孤鹤,独自背着一身伤痛缓慢前行。<\/p>
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3.看见,是疗愈的开始。愤怒的背后,定有所求。然后,我们只需平静的,温和的,不断给予孩子爱和帮助,孩子就能慢慢变得平静。值得注意的是,千万不要跟愤怒中的孩子讲道理,更不要斥责批评他。这只会让孩子觉得,你在意的是对错,并不是他。面对孩子的愤怒,最好的做法是:接纳愤怒,看见需求。<\/p>
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总结:李玫瑾曾说:孩子的脾气,是家长带出来的。也只有爱,能穿越愤怒,联结孩子的内心,使孩子和我们越走越近。<\/p>
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